Sex and the City - Why Women Should Hate rather than Love this Series

I’ve been watching old episodes of Sex and the City and finding my own dating experiences to be much the same as many of the episodes.  The writers have done an excellent job portraying so many situations that occur between men and women.

At the same time I googled various themes and ran across a blog entitled, “Why I hate Carrie Bradshaw, and Sex and the City.  Her premise states the entire series is unrealistic and gives women the wrong impression.  Over the 6 seasons, Carrie dates and even becomes engaged to a wonderful man, but never gets over Mr. Big.

However, the subsequent movie shows her finally marrying him.  The blogger rants that this rarely happens.  She hates Carrie and says she is stupid because she dumps the good guy for the man who treats her like shit. 

The blogger also realizes that a majority of women have found themselves in this situation, and unlike the television series will never end up being “the one” who changes Mr. Big.  How many Mr. Bigs are out there?  I’m uncertain, but I’ve run across a few.  Have I hoped to be the one to change him?  Shrug, honestly I suppose I have.  You see, we all love the chase and the challenge and our egos cry out that we need to be the special one.  These types of men thrive on this as we are just fodder for their egos.

This makes me as stupid as Carrie, at least in my new life as a widow.  In my life before, I was smart enough to chose the good guy and was in love with him for 40 years.  Unfortunately, he died. 

Just as Carrie randomly met Mr. Big, I was unfortunate enough to have met mine.  Did I go back a few times?  Yep.  But here is where Carrie and I differ, I’m still looking for another good man and when I find him, I’ll never look back.  Wish me luck;  it’s not easy finding one.